College life is one of those roller coaster like phase of life when things move up and down. One comes across tons of new people. We all have heard a cliche - "First impression is the last impression". This statement talks about impression and simply ignores the reality. Person that appears cool at first go may be very short tempered or the person who seems die hard caring (some have tendency to fake out) may just be doing so out of some hidden self interest. Things get even more complicated when it involves opposite genders.
To speak about someone is the basic characteristic of every human. We all have done so at some point of time. There are things that we just can't say on the face so we say it behind the back. Let us admit this. Sometimes when you say what someone else had said....things tend to change...in meaning...in interpretation. For example...when if I tell you in a joking way - "He is just mad!"...but now if you and tell him that Trushit told that you are just mad...he may develop doubts about me. Happens right?
Gossips are very light talks but have a great potential to damage relation between two people. Things get serious when someone tries to crosscheck things. Because at this point...almost everyone fails to admit the truth and starts blaming on each other. No one probably will have courage to come out and say the facts.
Here are the few things that can help you stay away from the emotional trauma that this creates:
- Stay away from Gossip. This one is the best way, but it does not always work. Sometimes things fall on your ear and if you are a human being you tend to react to it,
- Expect the unexpected. How would it feel when the person who has been your finest friend for years suddenly tell you that you are a liar.
- Learn to recognize people. When things come out....all of them will try to defend themselves. That is pretty obvious. When there are 2 people saying different things altogether, you need to decide what the fact is...whom to rely and why? This involves lot of reasoning.
- When things get serious be ready to listen what you don't want to listen in the nightmare even.
- Be responsible. If you are uttering a word, be sure that you can take its responsibility. Being transparent is the best thing so that you can avoid unwanted problems.
- Do care...but not so much. We care for people a lot. Sometimes out of care and concern, we tend to cross the line, spilling out everything that you should not. This is about putting your own reputation at stake. If that person believes you....fine. But what if that person buys the explanation that other people said...which is contradicting to what you said....you may lose all the reputation and trust.
Note: Different between engine and relation is....former can be repaired!
